Hubs and I went to the CPA's office recently, and the visit engendered a thought I'd like to share. We were discussing the ways in which men and women communicate and how each of those ways is received by the opposite sex.
The accountant mentioned how he talks to his wife: he's short and to the point, with no digressions and embellishments. His description of his wife's way of communicating is that she beats all around the bush before she comes to the point, and therefore, he tunes out nearly everything she says before the last sentence. This creates problems for both of them.
The accountant was describing the way in which my husband and I have communicated for the last 41 1/2 years - and probably the way which many husbands and wives interact as well. I am aware that not all men do it, but it seems to be typical of most. My husband has told me many times that he tunes out half of what I say because much of it is superfluous (to him). This is part of the reason why he claims no memory of some fact I have mentioned to him. The other part is that he seems to have very little memory for anything other than every basketball shot he has ever made. His other memories involve women and great meals he has eaten, but nothing substantial about what he has to do next week, or that we are having company tomorrow.
I know this about him; I filed it in my memory bank a long time ago. Therefore, I am constantly editing what I tell him, so that he might remember the important stuff and does not have to tune out any fluff. I do, however, have to repeat the important items all too often.
So what's your communication style? Have you noticed a difference in your spouse's way of doing it? Has it created problems in your relationship? If so, how do you handle it?