Since then, the whole adoptive family has been to those islands several times to visit, and they were treated like kings and queens themselves. The last I heard, the birth mother was still alive and she had created a warm link to her child, and he to her. There is a downside, though. His sister had learned of her birth mother several years before all this happened. She was met with indifference and was not able to learn about her birth family. I know she is happy for her brother, but it is so sad that they both could not share in the joy of forging a link to the past.
Sunday, September 17, 2006
And Speaking of Adoption
The adoption story link that I posted Sunday reminded me of another story similar. A very good friend has a nephew and niece who were both adopted while their adoptive parents lived on one of the Pacific Islands in the 70's. They all now live on the eastern side of the US. About 10 years ago, the adoptive parents were contacted in a letter from an attorney representing the birth family. The birth mother was asking for permission to contact the young man to whom she had given birth many years before. She had contracted a disease which might not allow her to live much longer and she wanted him to know his heritage before she died.
It was a situation that I think most adopted children create in their imaginations at some point during their childhoods: that their birth parents are fabulously wealthy and famous and will come for the child and make amends for giving him/her away. In fact, this birth mother was descended from royalty on this island - the family was wealthy - they were hoping to share all with their newly-found son. Although the birth father was no longer in her life, she was eager to tell the details of his life, so that the son could know his heritage and family medical history.