Edit below!I have had a wonderful friend since I was fourteen, when we moved next door to her family. There is a post about them somewhere, but I can't find it. I just got word that her husband died yesterday.
Ever since I started my wedding flower business I have played in my mind how I would handle it if I ever had a family or good friend's funeral (out of town) when I also had a wedding to do. Luckily, when my parents died, it was not an issue, but I have had to miss other family funerals due to work - and people usually understand. This time is a little different; I am due to leave here Monday with my daughter and her four children for their spring-break vacation. She needs help with the kids, of course. Taking four kids under the age of 12 away for a week is hard for two people, let alone one.
Deep sadness pervades me.....what to do?...what to do? They have not made all the arrangements for the service yet, but it will probably be held on Tuesday. The location is 330 miles in the opposite direction to our trip, so I can't just stop off on the way or make a small detour. Time, distance and money are in short supply. I know that when I am able to speak to her about it, she will tell me to go on the trip and not worry about it. She has a large extended family who will all be in attendence, so it isn't as though she needs me. Yet, I feel so down and out. Any advice?
Thanks to all of you who have given excellent and caring advice. I just spoke with my friend, and she agrees with most of you that I will be far more valuable to her in 4-5-6 weeks than I would be now. Her exact words were, "Don't give it another thought. I would prefer to see you when we have more quality time together than now, when I will be so busy with family and local friends." I feel better about my decision now, and I do thank you for your help and comments.