As a Bride, professional wedding florist, Mother of a Bride, Mother of a Groom and Mother of a Bride to Be, I am uniquely equipped to speak to that. Greed shows an ugly face in so many ways during the planning and executing of a wedding. Not many people read or subscribe to the old theories on polite etiquette anymore, or so it seems from where I sit. And way too many brides look for ways to turn their nuptials into money-making schemes.
I read often the forum/post area of a wedding web-site (www.theknot.com) where brides, mom's, lurkers and vendors like me can read what others have written or questioned in the planning of their weddings and honeymoons. They rant about future mothers-in-law, their own mothers - who are "forever" trying to take over the planning and style of the wedding ( imagine that! ). They ask their parents to pay for what sometimes turns out to be an extravaganza (starring the bride) and yet they don't want to allow the parents any say in how the money is allocated. They buy tacky favors, print long wordy programs, choose unflattering bridesmaid's dresses in trendy color schemes - and worse yet - some of them plan "theme weddings" in the style of fairy tales or theme parks. Do I sound bitter? I am really not - although after 23 years in the business - it begins to wear on you.
But every now and then, a young woman comes along who realizes that a wedding is - or should be - tasteful and elegant. She allows her parents some say in the budget, she errs on the side of understatement and grace. She attempts to choose a dress which can be worn again, or at least one that will not embarrass a bridesmaid to be seen in. She does not insist on thousands of flowers solely to impress the multitudes and she limits the number of attendants instead of having every person she sat next to in school, or her entire sorority from college. Unfortunately, there are not enough brides like this, but when one comes along, it is a joy to work with her and her family to produce the wedding of her dreams.