tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post113640871867920476..comments2024-03-28T17:25:54.982-05:00Comments on justaskjudy: Maxine Tells it Like it Is!kenjuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136952663175357232006-01-10T23:11:00.000-05:002006-01-10T23:11:00.000-05:00Maxine rocks for certain moods of mine lol. I have...Maxine rocks for certain moods of mine lol. I have a good internet friend who has a knack for finding the funniest Maxines online. It makes my day when she emails them to me.<BR/><BR/>Insightful post, BTW.Gelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18126965921250934236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136889685025155862006-01-10T05:41:00.000-05:002006-01-10T05:41:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Merlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05763778255535640633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136887155400829882006-01-10T04:59:00.000-05:002006-01-10T04:59:00.000-05:00Hi Judy ~ Interesting post. Somepeople always see ...Hi Judy ~ Interesting post. Some<BR/>people always see the glass half empty.<BR/>And we do not need to be drained<BR/>of our energy. Sometimes a kind word may help them, but most of us prefer to dodge them.<BR/>Thank you for visiting my site <BR/>and your kind words.Merlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05763778255535640633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136724129308085182006-01-08T07:42:00.000-05:002006-01-08T07:42:00.000-05:00Judy, I like so much this post! I know people like...Judy, I like so much this post! I know people like this "psychic vampire". Very, very wise your statement and I quote it: "We can allow people to have a negative effect on us, or we can choose not to allow it. Life is too short to dwell on the bad parts all the time." Well done!sonia a. mascarohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02415359150944729620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136692409621278482006-01-07T22:53:00.000-05:002006-01-07T22:53:00.000-05:00i TRY not to be a psychic vampire myself but i am ...i TRY not to be a psychic vampire myself but i am of the melancholy sort at times. sometimes there's nothing worse than a miserable chatty person (a description i resemble). some days i just wear a garlic necklance around other people, too, though. :) i like maxine. she tells it like it is. i aspire to be like her!justrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07287125209427594135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136690289684042052006-01-07T22:18:00.000-05:002006-01-07T22:18:00.000-05:00I had a neighbor in Mississippi like this. She wa...I had a neighbor in Mississippi like this. She was sweet and knew everyone and was ALWAYS walking but if you stopped to chat it turned into how bad she felt and how she couldn't take hormones and how many surgeries she had had and nothing seemed to help her. Yet she walked two to three miles every day. She had a longsuffering husband.srphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11751987787364198318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136690196301924312006-01-07T22:16:00.000-05:002006-01-07T22:16:00.000-05:00I had a neighbor in Mississippi like this. She wa...I had a neighbor in Mississippi like this. She was sweet and knew everyone and was ALWAYS walking but if you stopped to chat it turned into how bad she felt and how she couldn't take hormones and how many surgeries she had had and nothing seemed to help her. Yet she walked two to three miles every day. She had a longsuffering husband.srphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11751987787364198318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136686690641218962006-01-07T21:18:00.000-05:002006-01-07T21:18:00.000-05:00I had friends who thought pouring out their troubl...I had friends who thought pouring out their troubles was what our friendship was based on, sort of a misery loves company. It was draining and distructive. We all have to be careful not to turn into that person. Although, the ones who are always chipper like they don't have the mental capacity to grasp the severity of a situation make me want to shake them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136685929161526212006-01-07T21:05:00.000-05:002006-01-07T21:05:00.000-05:00Who is Michele?This is from a psychologist friend ...Who is Michele?<BR/><BR/>This is from a psychologist friend in an email to a friend about her husband: Depression isn’t his fault, but how he deals with it is his responsibility. Haven’t you soldiered on when you felt like shit?<BR/><BR/>I agree with it and have had some experience with depression. The woman you described sounds like she's gotten into a negative rut and spreads it around. Some people do suck the life out of you being around them. I try to stay away from those people, too. Now that I'm retired, it's easier. <BR/><BR/>Interesting post!Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15718724697267800263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136683234255113782006-01-07T20:20:00.000-05:002006-01-07T20:20:00.000-05:00I have the same problem but this person is in my f...I have the same problem but this person is in my family and I can't escape her..but you are right... Half an hour in her company and I feel completely drained...<BR/><BR/>You put it really well..now can you tell me how to get away?!<BR/><BR/>MinervaMinervahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07909909317029633356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136682668032498552006-01-07T20:11:00.000-05:002006-01-07T20:11:00.000-05:00Ha! Someday EVERYBODY will be converted to the Ol...Ha! Someday EVERYBODY will be converted to the Ol' Hoss school of mental well-being: "So it goes" and "Keep smiling."<BR/><BR/>Also, "Do unto others before they do unto you" works, too.OldHorsetailSnakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00865830344885164689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136677950572816702006-01-07T18:52:00.000-05:002006-01-07T18:52:00.000-05:00I have a similar relationship with a coworker. It ...I have a similar relationship with a coworker. It took a while, but I noticed that whenever she complained about things, I would always agree with her and offer support (even if I thought she was overreacting; that's what friends do, right?). Yet, when I had a problem I wanted to talk about, all I ever got were comments like, "That's not true," or "Well, I don't see it." When I finally called her on it, she wouldn't even admit there was a problem. Well, of course not, at least not from her point of view. I was giving her the support she wanted while I got blown off and made to feel like crap. Sometimes you just need someone to listen to you and she wasn't up to it. We "drifted apart" when I stopped taking breaks and lunch with her. Now I sit at my desk and read a magazine. I'm a lot happier now, too.Annakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618621465298118846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136674921013905872006-01-07T18:02:00.000-05:002006-01-07T18:02:00.000-05:00Went back on Michele's cause it looked like I had ...Went back on Michele's cause it looked like I had left you out!! And there were another three people after that...AND, I had already visited 3!! (lol)<BR/><BR/>Fun!!!OldLady Of The Hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458879772193114892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136674472515214232006-01-07T17:54:00.000-05:002006-01-07T17:54:00.000-05:00Hi Judy. I nodded all the way through this entry (...Hi Judy. I nodded all the way through this entry (as I so often do when I read your blog, but I digress...)<BR/><BR/>I refer to folks like these as toxic personalities, and I fully agree that they can and do bring the rest of us down.<BR/><BR/>Soon after we married, my wife and I befriended a couple who had gotten married around the same time as we had. Over time, the woman's whining about the dark side of everything began to really bring us down every time we went out with them.<BR/><BR/>Moving away was the best thing for us, for it gave us an easy excuse to drift away. No more wasted evenings being dragged down to share in her mirth.carmilevyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00360045114379957605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136674319748899342006-01-07T17:51:00.001-05:002006-01-07T17:51:00.001-05:00What a great post. You have such a great way of p...What a great post. You have such a great way of putting things into perspective.<BR/><BR/>Michele sent me...this time!Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01445337541769230125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136674303374817862006-01-07T17:51:00.000-05:002006-01-07T17:51:00.000-05:00Having had to deal with some variety of Chronic Fa...Having had to deal with some variety of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome since my mid 20s, I learned early that some people drain energy and I can't afford that...so I have learned to have radar for folks like that. Even some people's voices can drain me. <BR/><BR/>Have you ever read the book "Your Body Doesn't Lie?" It's about how certain things do literally drain or give energy and why.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136666627445692122006-01-07T15:43:00.000-05:002006-01-07T15:43:00.000-05:00Why do you feel people get like that? I have to s...Why do you feel people get like that? I have to say- I can be a negative person at times...lol. I see you are from NC. I was raised there- close to the Outer Banks. Thanks for visiting my blog and come back anytime!:)Tashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320735301333618941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136666305985518282006-01-07T15:38:00.000-05:002006-01-07T15:38:00.000-05:00Michele sent me to see you, Judy.My tenant, Stepha...Michele sent me to see you, Judy.<BR/><BR/>My tenant, Stephanie Davies, has a similar theme in her post today, Judy. But while I don't agree with hers, yours is right on the money. The "psychic vampire" you knew and others like her can have so much impact on a person's mood. And mental well being, I guess, in extreme cases. It's fortunate that you moved and were able to escape her influence. You and your family benefited from that.utenzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15988445461413550750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136662884698231752006-01-07T14:41:00.000-05:002006-01-07T14:41:00.000-05:00With people like that, it seems that even if you s...With people like that, it seems that even if you see them from a distance, if feels like your energy gets sucked on sight. There will always be bad things to deal with in life... always. It's not easy to try and look on the bright side of things, but it sure beats being a depressed, psychic vampire!Jamie Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11036600186909466411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136660329103566912006-01-07T13:58:00.000-05:002006-01-07T13:58:00.000-05:00psychic vampire. good description. I use to work...psychic vampire. good description. I use to work for a great woman years ago that put this same cartoon out every day for us. They were funny, insightful and most often on target. Thanks.Piratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08376248135574964070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136655614860887972006-01-07T12:40:00.000-05:002006-01-07T12:40:00.000-05:00Oh the vampires. I've had a few "toxic friends" th...Oh the vampires. I've had a few "toxic friends" throughout my years. It takes some work, sometimes, to see them for what they are and remove them from a sphere of influence. <BR/><BR/>There's a fine line in dealing with the depressed. You want to be sympathetic without enabling the wallowing. My mother used to head up a crisis hotline. They're way of "active listening" did a great job of reframing and handing it back to the person to look at from a new vantage point.<BR/><BR/>Something like "I can tell you're feeling overwhelmed by all this. It sounds like you've got a full plate you're trying to manage and it's getting to you." <BR/><BR/>Many a time the person stops, stutters and says "Yes, I do feel overwhelmed." <BR/><BR/>Follow-up with "It sounds like you feel like there's no end to the tough times."<BR/><BR/>Sometimes you'll get a "well it's not THAT bad." :) The point is, the person FEELS like you heard them. They feel like someone gets it and in the interim they've gotten to actually HEAR what they're saying. <BR/><BR/>Good luck<BR/><BR/>Michele sent me today.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01859698145917146528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136652255193000142006-01-07T11:44:00.000-05:002006-01-07T11:44:00.000-05:00You KNOW I love Maxine!!!!!Depression is a terribl...You KNOW I love Maxine!!!!!<BR/><BR/>Depression is a terrible thing but like you said, you have to TRY to rise above.brendalove@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00871065462462122312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136650780336955602006-01-07T11:19:00.000-05:002006-01-07T11:19:00.000-05:00I have a co-worker like that. I go out of my way ...I have a co-worker like that. <BR/><BR/>I go out of my way to avoid a chafe. People like that latch on to any ear that will lend itself. The key is not to lend an ear. I'd much rather have somebody think that I'm a stuck-up, unsympathetic jerk (not TOO far from the truth) than to have to get an earfull of soup from a malcontent.<BR/><BR/>Have a wonderful, sunny day. Here from Michele's, Kenny, but you know you're my gal!<BR/><BR/>love,<BR/>pPregohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02956114382782427084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136648258576668852006-01-07T10:37:00.000-05:002006-01-07T10:37:00.000-05:00I love Maxine. My favorite birthday card this yea...I love Maxine. My favorite birthday card this year had her on the cover and said, "I was going to get you one of those birthday cakes with your face on it...it's a great way to say "bite me" to lots of people at once."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194064.post-1136646552593711822006-01-07T10:09:00.000-05:002006-01-07T10:09:00.000-05:00A great post Judy, I thought immeadiately of my fr...A great post Judy, I thought immeadiately of my friends depressed son who took his life because he couldn't cope with his situation, but I knew him as a young man never really contented with his lot sadly.Peterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15835936655590583808noreply@blogger.com